Words Make a Difference

 Lord Chesterfield once said that words were “The dress of thoughts; which should no more be presented in rags, tatters, and dirt, than your person should.”

   Words are a necessary means of communication. What words are used and how they are spoken is determined by the speaker. Speaking poorly selected words for the occasion give wrong impressions and mislead listeners. Words spoken in hatred or anger are generally damaging. On the other hand, words spoken with kindness, consideration, and thoughtfulness create a sense of well being.

   Our lives, to some extent, are controlled by the words we utter. Words can build or tear down. We can aggravate, or we can calm and soothe with words.

   Words are important because those spoken make a great difference in responses. Usage of the right words in conversations makes a great difference in our relationships with others.

   “Thank you,” is one of the “good word” expressions and represents an appropriate response. If these words are expressed in a meaningful way accompanied by a smile, they become special supporting or commends us. This set of words gives the giver pleasure.

   Another ideal phrase is “I’m proud of you.” Saying this with sincerity raises spirits and brings self-esteem, feelings of accomplishment, and a measure of satisfaction.

   Another meaningful combination of words is “What is your opinion?” This phrase produces in others feelings of importance and the belief that their opinions matter.

   “If you please” is a phrase, demonstrating courtesy and politeness, illustrates the art of selecting the right words for the occasion. “Please” is a word that builds respect, consideration, and graciousness.

   “Thank you” is another combination, labeled the most important words in our language, shows one’s appreciation or gratitude. Hearing these words brings feelings of accomplishment and that we have done something special.

   Words, at times, mirror our thoughts and feelings. They are often indicative of our moods and viewpoints. That is why our words must be carefully selected. Bad moods offer opportunities to use the wrong words causing feelings of regret.

   Someone once remarked, “Language can be man’s deadliest weapon.” Words need not be harmful or dreaded. The best choice in using words is keeping in mind the importance of others. Words can be our greatest companions and adherents. They are capable of enhancing our lives and, more important, the lives of others. Think before speaking using words carefully, and you will never regret what you say.

By Dorothy Rieke  

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